Imagine you have never tasted ice cream before and you are asked if you would prefer chocolate, vanilla, strawberry, or mint.

Could you pick a favorite flavor based upon a written list of characteristics of the flavors?

Getting to know your personality preferences

No way!

You need to taste each of the flavors!

Expecting everyone in a workshop to accurately identify their most dominant personality style using a personality assessment or other written descriptions of style trait patterns as their first introduction to the terms and concepts is a wildly unreasonable prospect. It is a lot like asking them to choose a favorite flavor of ice cream without actually tasting them.

Your personality preferences are “a posteriori” knowledge, they are best discovered “after the fact or from experience” as you correlate the concepts with your observed feelings and behaviors.


It would be nice to be as certain about everything as we can be about mathematical truths, it would be lovely to know the answer almost the instant we asked the question as when we say 2 + 2 = 4. In other words, to know truth ‘a priori’. However, the most vital knowledge comes ‘a posteriori’ meaning after the fact or from experience as we link up a given visible effect to its preceding cause.

as told by Arthur Herman in “The Cave and the Light”

For practical reasons, we do want participants to feel fairly confident in their self-assessment performed during a personality workshop. To accomplish this, Personality Lingo teaching methodologies do not depend strictly on personality assessment results. All Personality Lingo training programs employ a 3-Step Identification Method to provide multiple opportunities during the workshop for participants to try on each personality style to see which one feels like a more natural fit.

It is important to let your participants know that the results of any assessment or card sort activity serve to capture their first impressions, that’s all. The personality workshop they are participating in has other segments designed to help them to relate to the personality styles in the context of stories and explore personal preferences as they dialogue in a dominant style group. By the end of the session, after being presented with multiple ways of digesting the information, most of them will be fairly confident in their personality style lineup.


In respect of one’s own personality one’s judgement is as a rule extraordinarily clouded.

Carl Jung

Even greater clarity will be gained in the weeks following their introduction to the personality style terms and concepts. So, for those, who can easily decide on their most dominant personality style during the workshop – great! And for those who are having a hard time deciding right now, they may let go of making that determination today and focus more on recognizing the style patterns in others. They will have plenty of time after the session to experience life in light of these new terms and concepts and reflect upon the order of the styles in their own personality style lineup.