Connector Personality Style

Connector NF Blue Personality Style

Those with the Connector (NF-Blue) personality style tend to be social souls and are generally friendly and approachable.

Connectors enjoy being needed and helping others. They feel uplifted when they are able to contribute to the well being of others; be it a simple compliment, praise for a job well done, or supporting them through tougher times.

Connectors value diversity, teamwork and collaboration. Their engaging smile and positive attitude can light up a room and bring enthusiasm, warmth, and a sense of cohesion to a group.

Connectors have an innate drive to build relationships.

No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.


Many Connectors are fascinated by human behavior and relationships. They seek understanding of themselves and how they fit into the world around them. They may be drawn to the self-help and psychology sections of bookstores and are on a constant quest of self-exploration.

As they seek to find themselves, connectors also engage in understanding how they can connect effectively with and contribute to the growth and self expression of others.

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.

-Norman Macewan

People Oriented

Accepting of differences, friendly, and affirming. Connectors relate well with people. They make efforts to connect with and acknowledge others. Most every decision made is determined by how it will affect the people involved. 

Connector Internal Compass

They may spend a great deal of their time seeking understanding of themselves and others or working towards the ultimate “This is what I am meant to do with my life” discovery. They view life’s challenges as opportunities for transformation and look for the lesson to be learned. When they are able to do so, it allows them to grow stronger and move forward with amazing resiliency.

They often let life unfold instead of trying to control their direction. Rather, they want their path or purpose to be revealed to them from life circumstances.

Connector Personality Style Internal Compass

Connector Frustrations

Connectors can get offended if others criticize without emphasizing the positive aspects first, preferring to feel appreciated and supported before critiqued.

Conflict can be a big stressor for them, even if it does not involve them. Connectors may try to mediate an argument and foster collaboration to restore equilibrium and positive attitudes.

Connectors get frustrated when they feel others aren’t being kind.

No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.


Core Value: Relationship

Before Connectors make a decision, they consider the impact it will have on others. They ask themselves, “How will this affect the relationship or people involved?”

From the Connector perspective, harmony, happiness, and friendship are valued more highly than personal victory. Not only are relationships with others a top priority for Connectors, their own self expression (relationship with self) is very important.

Connectors feel the most alive and fulfilled when they are included, appreciated and expressing their true selves.

The terms used to describe the Connector style are plentiful (as you can see by the graphic at the top of this page). We at Personality Lingo strive to bridge the gap in understanding of terms so personality enthusiasts and those they teach can recognize the various differences and commonalities between systems. To get you started, the following is some nomenclature associated with the Connector Style.

The term, Phlegmatic, originating from Galen and brought to Waldorf schools by Rudolf Steiner roughly correlates with the Connector style. Old school Keirsey/Bates fans use Apollonian to describe this style, while the present Keirsey devotees refer to Connectors as Idealists or NFs. The most frequently used term by color enthusiasts, such as admirers of Don Lowry’s True Colors model is Blue. Personality Dimensions, Color Lingo, and Real Colors also use Blue to describe this personality style. Similarly the color Blue is used to represent the Connector personality style in the Spectrum Temperament and Insight Learning models. The MBTI personality inventory subdivides the Connector style into four personality types: INFP, ENFP, INFJ, and ENFJ.

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Connector NF Blue Personality Style

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